Day 10:Explore

I apologize about the hold up. I had to put my laptop in the shop. But luckily, I wrote down my days on good ol fashioned loose leaf paper, so here we go. I had been feeling more kinkier these days compared to how I had been so reserved a few weeks ago. Sex is like exercise, shit, it is exercise to many. If you want to get good at it and elongate your stamina, you must practice at it. And only perfect practice, leads to perfect results. Tonight, I had decided that maybe we should explore our fantasies and fetishes. This is something that I remembered us doing, but it was years ago....like when we first met.

To start you will need:
A candle
An open mind
A vibrator or sex toy
Index Cards
Marker or pen

During this time, relax, massage each other and light the candle. Talk openly and speak your mind in a Q & A session. Move along to a romantic type truth or dare with consequences that are sexy and exotic such as sucking one's toes or spitting on his shaft if he doesn't answer. Now, on an index card, write a sexual question about fantasies and ask your partner to tell you the answer. Flip it over and see if he answered correctly. Start talking about which fantasies are more realistic than others and talk out the scenarios. Begin to plan to act out on these fantasies and see where the night takes you!

Day #9 and loving it!

I needed to write what has been going on. I am so excited about my husband and I new relationship and how sex has helped us. I had gone out Thursday night with my husband and our friends. We had gotten so drunk that night. We actually went the entire night drunk and didn't argue! This was a huge breakthrough for us! We made crazy love that night and it wasn't our normal lovemaking neither. Allow me to elaborate.

I told him that I wanted to watch porn, but I wanted to watch it my way, less oral sex and more eroticism. I fast forward past all the bs and went straight in for the nitty gritty! We had watched a scene with a sexy little Asian girl getting gangbanged by four men. I was so turned on, but super drunk. We talked through it and touched each other. We were both so horny afterwards. He bent me over and we had nice, rough, sexy sex. But just as I thought it was over, BAM! He took some of the cum from inside of me and started rubbing it on my anus. It felt so damn good. He played with my holes and teased my vagina and anus with his fingers and the head of his penis. He began to force his penis in my anus slowly, opening up my hole and then he pushed it all the way in. It had hurt at first, but after a few minutes, the pain became tolerable and I was loving it. I stuck my fingers in my vagina while he was thrusting. I also like the way he was talking dirty to me, telling me he loved the way my tight little asshole felt. We do not have anal sex very often, but when we do, it is fantastic! We stayed up until 6 am that night making love all types of ways. He was so turned on and I could tell that this was something that he had been craving for a long while.

Anal sex can be enjoyable. I felt relaxed and comfortable with my body and its functions. I did not think about anything else but his penis inside of me. This is super important, ladies. Especially if you are a cleanaholic like me. Sometimes, you have to just enjoy the ride and clean up the mess (is any) later. When I woke up that morning, I felt the effects of our rough anal sex the next morning and smiled. This was definitely a night to remember and I am surely going to make this more of a natural routine!

Extra bonus: I had came so hard that I squirted all over the carpet and our blankets. I had some serious cleaning up to do the next day!

Day #4 & Day 3 results

Welp, I had myself, all to myself. No biggie, thou. I spoke to my husband this morning and forgave him for falling asleep earlier. We had a wonderful conversation about my vibrator and masturbation from last night. I told him how I masturbated off of porn, specifically double penetration porn. I came twice and both times it was fantastic. Now, ladies, I know what thinking, why watch porn? I used porn as visual stimulation to enhance my experience with my vibrator. It was something about the girls that I watched being stimulated and penetrated by two men that turned me completely up. My first orgasm came from direct clitoris stimulation. It was similar to using my finger and rubbing my clitoris back and forth. The second orgasm was much different. I used the vibrator at the opening of my vagina without penetration. This method gave me a feeling that was surreal! It felt so damn good! I encourage every woman to try this method as a way to reach ultimate pleasure. Even though I did not make love to my husband; I still had an orgasm and slept like a baby.

Some people believe in finding the G-spot to reach orgasm. I am unsure if I have ever done this before, but having my insides tickle always lead to me squirting or becoming super horny. Play around with this method on your own, with your man, or with the assistance of a vibrator.

Sometimes, you can treat your clitoris like a penis by pulling it out, if it is larger, and stroking it up and down. Pretend the clitoris is a penis and stroke it with any two fingers that feel comfortable for you. This method may take a little longer, but with some visual stimulation, a wonderful orgasm can occur. I have had my best orgasms like this.

This is my manual technique of reaching orgasm. Direct stimulation is always best, but some women may find that doing it like this cause the clitoris to become too sensitive and causes them discomfort. If this method is becoming uncomfortable and you haven't reached orgasm in 5 minutes or less, this may not be the method for you.

Day #4
Tonight, our goal will be to make love but to also spend some quality time away from electronics. I am also cooking a light dinner tonight which will help eliminate sleepiness for both of us. By 10 pm tonight, all electronic devices will be turned off and I plan on us both going to bed by 12am. Wish me luck!

Day #3

It was only 10 pm when I saw that having sex with my husband was not going to be something that was do-able tonight. He played that damn X-Box until 10:30, ate a sandwich, some more leftovers, and smoked a cigar. Now he is still in his man cave, sleepy as hell, while I am up steaming!!!!! I see that for us to have a healthy relationship, he must be available to me and the kids or I will become upset. For him to have spent four hours playing the game and not being with me was very upsetting and this is where I become resentful. So....to continue my quest of becoming a Sex Goddess and to feel comfortable within my own skin and sexuality, I am going to masturbate and make myself reach orgasm 2xs. But the difference tonight is to watch porn to achieve both of them.

I have always felt uncomfortable watching porn with my husband. I would love to feel more relaxed and less insecure while watching porn with him. Unfortunately, I am very upset at him for being so irresponsible about his time with me today. With that said, I will be watching sexy, raunchy videos to reach an orgasm while I'm ridin' solo! Hopefully, I sleep beautifully tonight too.


Hardest question to answer right now? Should I use my vibrator once or twice, and in which order???!!!

Day 2 Results

I see that making love daily is becoming more and more difficult as the days go by. Last night, once my husband woke up from his nap around 8:30, my girlfriend had come over for a while and we had a few cocktails, sat and talked and she had finally left around 11:30. My husband and I continued to drink and watch movies until 1am and then finally went to bed to have sex. The sex was back to bland. I was not as into it as I should have been. I gave him a blowjob, but it was crappy at best. I felt tired, drunk, and was just ready to go to bed. I was back into robot-fucking mode; where I felt I had to have sex just because he wanted me to. It was not good, sexy, nor pleasurable for me. I did not have an orgasm and went to bed unsatisfied.

What did I learn: Either to kick my girlfriend out earlier, or right after my friends leave, I need to head straight to bed and allow myself more time to get into the mood.

Day #2

My husband loves to nap after a hard day at work. I usually get very upset about this because I am still managing the kids while he is asleep for four/five hours. This unusual napping schedule also throws him off, and he will stay up until 4am and will end up late for work. He did this last night and it seems as though he is trying to do it again tonight. I will wake him up after I have completed this post with some dinner and conversation.

Day 1 results:
We made love once the kids were asleep, around 10pm. I did not get a chance to perform oral sex on him because he performed it on me instead. It felt so good to. I rode him, and we both came. Afterwards, I went upstairs to go to sleep, but my clitoris was still so swollen and I was actually horny still. So I got out my vibrator and went to town. I hadn't used my vibrator in over 6 months so it felt fantastic! I had two orgasms and then went to bed. I slept so hard. I had wonderful dreams and my neck was hurting when I woke up. I felt like I had been in a coma, specifically a sex coma. I cleaned house and thought about him all day. I called him to tell him that I loved him and was looking forward to seeing him when he came home.  I even managed to get in 30 minutes of exercise.

Day #2:
Since my first day results were so fantastic, I decided to keep the momentum going by keeping the late night vibrator/masturbation session. This time, I want my husband to be a part of this. So I will give him a blow job while playing with my vibrator until I cum. I will only make him super hard, and not let him cum. I still want us to make love. I plan to start out with a sensual massage, then oral sex accompanied with solo masturbation and then a sensual romp in the bed. I feel freakier, sexier, than I've felt in a long time. Maybe I am reaching my sexual peak, or maybe I am tapping into the Sex Goddess that was always there! hmmmmm.....

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Married and bored

I have been suffering from some major boredom from my life, especially in the bedroom. It seems like all of our days are just merging together and sex has become more of a chore. We went from making love 5-6xs a week to maybe once or twice a week. I want that passion back with my husband.  I feel sexier when I am happy with my body and I know that has a lot to do with the lack of our sex sessions. So everyday, I will eat healthy and be active.

So, I wanted to spice up my marriage with a 30 day challenge. Today will be day one.
Today's challenge is:
1. Do not argue with my husband.
2. Say only positive things to him.
3. Give him at least 10 minutes of oral sex before making love.

I have noticed that when I am nice to my husband throughout the day, we tend to have more passionate and sweeter sex. So...I will post the results tomorrow.